The child does not want to listen, what to do
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Many parents have endless complaints about their children. Photo: Collected
The boy or girl does not want to hear anything. It's getting worse day by day. It was good as a child. As the days go by, it gets worse.
Shahana Tripti, a psychologist at Lifespring, a health service provider, has highlighted some ways to talk to those who have endless complaints about their children.
In a recently aired video , the psychologist said, 'Are we actually able to make the child listen? Just as he said, he will listen, and accept, are we doing that?'
Shahana Tripti gave importance to some issues in bringing the child under control. They are presented step by step in his language.
Talking with eye contact
The first step to listening is to call the baby close and talk to the baby with caressing eye contact; Convince the child with eye to eye; Bring the child to your eye level and slowly tell the child what you want.
Communication medium
The medium of communication is very important in communicating with the child. The language we use, our facial expressions, our body language is very important to the child. If we speak using beautiful language, are we using that language that will be easy for the child to understand?
Connecting emotionally, speaking respectfully
Another thing. We want to correct the child. Before that, are we connecting with the child? Connection with the child is very important before the correction.
If I don't have that kind of relationship with my child, if there's a distance, then that child won't be able to relate to me very naturally; The child will be afraid. And if the child is afraid, he will not listen to me.
My connection with the child is important first. I have to give my validity to the child's emotions; You have to understand what he means. His fillings should be given importance. After that I will repay him. The biggest thing in that case is respect. How about that again? Why respect children, right?
A key condition of relationships is respect; Respect. It is in the case of all big and small. If I want to be respected myself, I have to give respect. No matter how small a child he is.
the routine
The child will have a daily routine, where the child can grow up in a disciplined way. In that routine, how long the child will sleep, his sleep, reading, playing and his screen time (how long he spends in front of mobile, laptop or such devices), everything will be fixed.
Apart from whether the child is going to school in the morning or in the afternoon, we can divide the rest of the time into one, this is his play time. Children must be allowed to play for an hour in the afternoon. Apart from this, there will be a specific time for sleeping.
A lot of kids have screen time these days; Stay up late. There are no rules for sleeping; There is no routine. It won't do that. A child should go to sleep at a certain time. Because adequate sleep is important for all of us, the child should go to sleep by 10:30. In that case, he should be given dinner two hours before sleep.
Then when will the baby wake up. His eating after waking up in the morning; Having breakfast, the child goes to school.
Most children these days go to school without having breakfast in the morning, because of which they do not concentrate on their studies; Not being able to maintain concentration, forgetting to read. Because a hungry stomach does not remember reading.
Family rules
There will be a family rules. Every family will have a rule that athletes eat (at least) one lunch, maybe dinner. We all come home at the end of the day, parents come home, children sit together to have a meal together.
There will be a family time, where parents, children or family all sit together and talk, share how their day has been, what they are doing, what they have done. Through all the sharing, children actually feel connected with the parents and the more connected they feel, the more the children are easy, natural and easy to mix with the parents and the easier they listen to the parents.
Don't compare with others
One thing parents should remember is that I will never compare my child. I will not force you to accept anything. When it comes to comparisons, we can't appreciate or compare children all the time.
To be first in the class, to get so many grades. He got it, why don't you get it? In this case, many times we throw the stake. Are his parents feeding more or doing more? What am I not doing?
In fact, the child should be praised. We have to remember that every child is different. All our children's brains are different. Their behavior is different; Their personalities are different.
The child must be made useful by my praise. The child should be encouraged; Interest is generated in any subject. Comparing the child hurts the child; The child gradually loses his confidence. He can no longer remember that he has a merit, a power of his own.
Don't over control
We must remember, children cannot be over disciplined. So we do not discipline children? Sure, but in a logical manner.
Children can be caught playing. He did not put the toys away after playing. In that case, tell him that if you don't put the toy away, he won't be allowed to play with that toy for a while before playing with it later. It means to lock up or lock up.
It is a logical matter that if you do not put away your toys, if someone else has to put away, then you cannot play. Convince the child logically in this way without punishing otherwise.
Another thing happens. Children may be getting involved in conflicts with brothers and sisters. Maybe watching a program on TV, one will watch this program, another will watch another program. Fighting over the remote.
In that case, holding the remote for a while without allowing anyone to watch any program at that moment and keeping those children sitting quietly without allowing them to do anything at all for a while.
It can be assumed that if someone is 10 years old, in that case, one minute for every year, i.e. 10 minutes to sit quietly. In that case the siblings or children will realize what was his mistake.
It is a very natural process that you quarrel, you have conflicts. For that, separately according to their age, make them sit quietly for the right number of minutes.
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